Beyond Monogamy present CRUISING FOR CONVOS

Beyond Monogamy SA presents: Cruising for Convos

A monthly night of questionable conversation cues, plus a dance floor, cuddles and snacks

Convo Cue Cards | Foreplay | Pillow Talk | Body Language | Oral Fixation | Facilitators & Safety Monitors

Our second edition is Wednesday 11 November, 18h30 to 21h30

Fruition House, 388 Albert Road, Woodstock (across from the Old Biscuit Mill)

From R80 on (FH website link) (early bird until Thurs, 22 October)

Led by Amy Nelson, Ancois Human-Nelson and Salma Kathrada

In queer history, cruising was a finely tuned system for hooking up with strangers. Cruising for Convos is the spin-off for the conversation hos (both introverts and EXTRAS), the ones who can go for hours and come home aching for more. It's also for shy gwurls who fantasise about long, deep, stimulating convos, but get choked up in the moment.

So what's the vibe?

Everyone arrives and gets a pack of convo cue cards, but before we get loose, we'll welcome everyone, talk boundaries and consent, and start with a casual facilitated group discussion. Then it's game on, and the challenge is to cruise through the space and converse with everyone in the room.

When you approach someone, they'll choose a category, for example Casual, Embarrassing, Flattering, Deep, Personal or Saucy. Once they've chosen, you ask them the question from your card, and you switch once they're done. You can work the whole room like it owes you an anecdote, or settle into one conversation that goes all night.

There are spaces to move through with different vibes: the dance floor (for body language), the cuddle puddle (for pillow talk), the snack bar (for your oral fixation), and the courtyard (if you wanna take it outside).

As the evening flows, the team will be floating about and checking in. All three of us are safety monitors, and Amy and Salma are trained in holding space and first-line emotional support. On the night, that means helping you take a break, settle if things feel like too much, or step in if someone crosses a boundary. We're also there to make sure nobody feels left out or overwhelmed.

The evening is for anyone redefining love, relationships or identity, and it's built to include queer, neurodivergent, nonmonogamous and minority folk. Here, being different is normal, and nobody needs you to explain yourself.

Hosts and Facilitators:

Amy & Ancois Nelson | Fruition House and Shamanic Therapy

Amy and Ancois hold Fruition House, a home in Woodstock for the communities that gather here, among them the Psychedelic Society of South Africa, alongside Amy's private practice, Shamanic Therapy, which works at the meeting of sexuality, spirituality, trauma and the many ways we love and relate. Together they run the Shamanic Temple Nights, Queer Spirit Cape Town, and Beyond Monogamy SA. They're trained in psycare support, consent-forward and trauma-informed practice, and work toward genuine inclusion.

Salma Kathrada is a registered counsellor and psychology lecturer who works with individuals and couples to gently uncover and transform the intergenerational patterns that shape how we see ourselves, love, relate and move through the world.

Her work is rooted in the belief that beneath the patterns we inherit are parts of ourselves waiting to be remembered. Through an embodied, relational and creative approach, Salma supports individuals to break free from old stories and ways of being, reclaim forgotten parts of themselves, and create relationships and lives that feel more authentic, connected and wholehearted.

At the heart of her work is a simple invitation: Come home to yourself.

Snacks & Non-alcoholic drinks

Mishka Gool @LoveKosMos

To cater to your munchie and thirst needs, LoveKosMos will be there with a Botanical bar and light snacks.

The evening

18h00 Doors open

18h30 Doors close. Pick up your cards and a non-alcoholic drink.

19h00 Foreplay. Amy, Ancois & Salma lead a facilitated warm-up.

19h45 Cruising hours. Cards out, the whole house is yours.

21h30-22h00 Last orders on conversation, closing circle. One last dance, swap numbers, and a South African goodbye near the door.

What to wear

Casual or peacock! Come as you are, or peacock by wearing a conversation starter. Peacock items usually stand out, like a big hat, a bowtie, PJs, or a bondage item. (Not full bondage, you lil freak! That's a different night, okay!)

Access

Fruition House has no wheelchair access, regrettably. It's on the first floor, and there are 2 steps to the bathroom.

Is this cruising cruising?

Mostly the talking kind. Clothes stay on, kisses happen only with a clear yes, and the vibes stay chilled.

Do I have to cuddle?

No. Every cuddle starts with a question, and "no" is a complete answer. You can change your mind at any point, and you can also sit on the side and still be in the swirl of connection without touch.

Do I have to answer every question?

No. Pick another category or say you're not up for chats right now. All is valid.

I'm neurodivergent. How will this feel?

The cards give every conversation a script to start from, so there's no guessing at small talk. You can pass on any question, leave any conversation, and move at your own pace. If things ever feel confusing or overstimulating, come and find us and we'll support you!

Do I need to be nonmonogamous?

No. Queer, curious, questioning, monogamous and wondering, or the partner of someone exploring: you're welcome.

Can I come alone?

Yeabsolutely.

Talk is cheap. How cheap?

R80 early bird, until Thurs, 22 October

R120 for yourself

R110 each when you book for two or more

R200 to sponsor someone who's strapped for cash

R250 to sponsor someone and throw us a tip because you're able and so generous

Alcohol and substance free · Consent-centred · Beginner-friendly

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FRUITION HOUSE: WHAT'S COMING UP

Fruition House is a space for embodied connection, conscious relating, community, creativity, ritual and exploration. Our programme moves across different practices and communities, from talks and workshops to dance, sound, drumming and queer gatherings.

October - HOUSE EVENTS

Tue 13 Oct

PSSA Talks Sexual Content in Psychedelic Facilitation: The Conversation We're Not Having with Amy Nelson  https://www.shamanictherapy.co.za/event-details/sexualexperiencesinpsychedelicspaces

Wed 21 Oct

Queer Connect Community gathering - Ga(y)mes night (bring your board or card games and lets hang out!!

Sat 7 Nov

Psychedelic Drumming with guest facilitator Chrisna van Niekerk
Wed 11 Nov

Beyond Monogamy presents: Cruising for Convos Community gathering

Fri 27 Nov

Shamanic Dance

Dates to be confirmed Nov/Dec

AkalikaSound Live sound journey

Queer Women Connect (An evening of sharing, mingling and connection for women who have attended our Temple gatherings)

Relational Attunement: Tools for Talking About Sex & Desire Online workshop with Amy Nelson

October - GUESTS EVENTS

Sat 28 Nov

Mens Masturbation Masterclass - Facilitated by Simon Heller & Francis Chouler

**** Regularly at Fruition House ****

Monthly

Shamanic Dance
Psychedelic Drumming
Sound Journeys
Beyond Monogamy Gatherings
Queer Connect
Psychedelic Society of South Africa Talks & Workshops
Quarterly

Queer Temples
Queer Sweat Lodge
Yearly

Queer Retreat
Want to stay connected? Message 071 603 6077 for more information or to be added to the relevant Fruition House community groups.