WHY DO WE KEEP DOING THE SAME THING?

If you can relate to feeling frustrated, hopeless, disconnected, or lonely—even when you're sitting right next to your partner...

If you've found yourself thinking "why does everything have to be a fight?" or "we can't seem to come out of this"...

If you've said to a partner, "I can't do this anymore" or "just leave me alone"...

Then this workshop is designed to support you.

It is built on the understanding that most of us were not modelled healthy rupture and repair by our caregivers. We were not equipped to sit with discomfort. Our understanding and education around conflict was minimal, and our coping strategies have probably not evolved much since we were toddlers.

This is a series of workshop sessions where you get practical and experience the gains from building conflict resilience. We work with fear, anger, shame, and defensiveness as messengers pointing to what matters most. Whether your dynamic is defined by frequent rupture, the silent treatment, or the heavy weight of unspoken things, this space is for you.

WHO THIS IS ONLINE WORKSHOP FOR

This space is for anyone navigating intimate connection who feels stuck in cycles of blame, withdrawal, or reactivity and wants to:

– Learn to map your conflict styles and understand the hidden dynamic driving your fights

– Move beyond control and shutdown patterns into genuine curiosity

– Understand what your fears, anger, and jealousy are actually protecting

– Create conditions for openness rather than managing outcomes

– Observe and share your stories without being ruled by them

– Align your actions with your relational goals

– Shift from head-based negotiation to body-based connection

All identity expressions and sexual orientations welcome.

Relationship structures welcome: Monogamous, polyamorous, relationship anarchist, hierarchical, non-hierarchical, fluid constellations, and everything in between.

WHAT YOU'LL LEARN

Over six sessions, we'll work with the Triangle of Needs—a framework for understanding what drives relational fear and how to meet it without shame or control.

Connect – The need to bond, belong, and be seen Protect – The need to feel safe, respected, and trusted Individuate – The need to be your own person without absorption

You'll leave with:

Capacity building – Growing your nervous system tolerance for uncertainty and emotional intensity Creating conditions for openness – Learning what makes safety possible between you Observing and sharing stories – Noticing the narratives you tell without being ruled by them Creating relational culture – Co-authoring agreements that honour both people's needs Aligning actions with goals – Moving from reactive patterns to intentional choices Shifting towards body connection – Using somatic awareness as your compass during conflict

THE ONLINE SIX SESSIONS

We move beyond surface-level tips to the root of your relational patterns.

– Week 1 Mapping the Dynamic:

Identifying your specific conflict cycle, triggers, and the stories we tell ourselves

– Week 2 The Triangle of Needs:

Decoding whether your conflict is driven by a threat to Connect, Protect, or Individuate

– Week 3 Attachment as Strategy:

Understanding how your history shapes your reaction to fear and how to interrupt the loop

– Week 4 Unshaming Fear & Anger:

Transforming shame, jealousy, and rage from enemies into messengers of unmet needs

– Week 5 Negotiation Without Control:

Moving from rules to agreements that protect capacity and foster trust

– Week 6 Integration & Future-Proofing: Creating a living relational culture and a roadmap for ongoing growth

Each session includes teaching, paired practice, group reflection, and a somatic anchor to carry forward.

ABOUT YOUR FACILITATOR

My name is Amy Nelson. I am a relational diversity coach, shamanic therapist, and somatic practitioner. I work with people exploring nonmonogamy and other forms of relational diversity, helping them navigate the complex terrain of modern love with dignity and clarity.

My approach is relational, developmental, and trauma-informed. I don't position any relationship structure as morally superior. Instead, I focus on the alignment between your relational structure, your nervous system capacity, your values, and your life circumstances.

My work draws from Byron Katie's inquiry, attachment theory, nervous system regulation, somatic awareness, Non-Violent Communication (NVC), and symbolic sharing. I believe that relationships are powerful sites of self-inquiry and awakening.

If you'd like to set up an exploratory call to feel out if this worshop is a fit for you, BOOK HERE

If you'd like to find out more about my work, visit my WEBSITE

EXTRA SUPPORT

If you would like private support between sessions to work through the course content in the context of your relational dynamic, you can select the "Fully Supported" package. This includes one 60-minute private session during the 6-week program for deeper individualised guidance.

ACCESSIBILITY & COMMUNITY SUPPORT

I believe this work should be accessible regardless of financial circumstances.

I provide two spaces for people who aren't able to pay the full price. If you need this support, please contact me directly. I will provide a discount code based on what you feel you can contribute. No questions asked.

IMPORTANT SAFETY NOTE

If your conflict includes abuse, violence, or coercive control, please contact me directly before registering. This group format is not suitable for violent dynamics. Safety is the priority, and I can help connect you with appropriate individual resources.

PRACTICAL DETAILS

Format: Online via Zoom (recordings available for missed sessions)
Duration: 6 weeks, 90 minutes per session
Dates: Monday, May 11th, 18th, 25th, June 1st, June 8th, and 15th.
Time: 19:00

A FINAL THOUGHT

Our relationships are a path to enlightenment, and our partners are our wise teachers in disguise. Let's embrace the journey and expand.